k ppl, I've been meaning to ask this question..."can one really change his or her personality?"

Cast in stone. Dyed in the wool. A leopard can't change his spots. All phrases that, at one time or another, have been used to express the idea that when it comes to personality, we are who we are and nothing can change, however, over the years, we have seen times, environment and people change. Even in the everyday anime that we watch. But what happens to our personality? Is it possible to change our personality -- and if so, to what degree?..."give us ur take.:) "

i think personality is an ever changing thing, each day we grow a lil bit u zimmi, sometimes its positive growth some times its negative. but all in all personality doens't seem like something that would be static, i'm sure your personality from the days of a child is different from it is now. if not you've got problems and need to stop watching power rangers and so on. :rofl......

Power rangers and things u watch dont spell a personality. things u watch and power rangers can develop a personality but it isnt a description of ur personality... at least i dont think so. I dont think personality is ever changing. i think once u get 2 a certain age ur personality has been developed and only though controlling mental processes can u adjust ur personality(seeing a shrink). I thing personality is a genetic thing as well as an environmental thing and ur perceptions of things.

That is to say, i believe people are born with a certain pre-disposition 2 certain types of behaviour. that does not mean i believe people are born homosexuals, but i believe people are born with a pre-disposition 2 commit crimes (go figure). I would not believe if someone was to tell me they have changed. PEOPLE DONT CHANGE, THEY ONLY ADJUST. if they are interested in u, and they are aware that certain behaviours are displeasing 2 u, they dont change 2 become the person u want them 2 be, they adapt 2 fit ur specifications (like putting a bandaid over an amputated leg)

So, in essence, i believe personality is set in stone, from when u were little and use 2 run around wid di bullies 2 when u were first taught about sex, all these little things build ur personality and the idiosyncracies which are tailored to you the individual.

wikipedia

In psychology, personality is a collection of emotional, thought and behavioral patterns unique to a person that is consistent over time. The word originates from the Latin persona, which means "mask."[1] Significantly, in the theatre of the ancient Latin-speaking world, the mask was not used as a plot device to disguise the identity of a character, but rather was a convention employed to represent, or typify that character.


yeh it consistent right. however adjusting is still an attempt at change, the little or larger adjustment would still be a personality change wouldn't it.

i agree with DK... ur personality is a forever changing aspect of who u are.... situations , experiences, etc they all help to alter the way u perceive things ..thus altering ur personality. Some things though, no matter how hard u try... u cant change it ...

personality can change depending on if u r eazyly persuaded a lot of people can not be thre true self cause people around them make them feel that they have to act this way and dress that way to be accepted but this is not true cast in point
self

the only way someone can chage them self is if they really want to plain and simple

"so desu ka...so desu ka:eusa_thin " I C where you guys are goin, however, we havn't yet calculated an adamant response to this, have we? I recommend defining "personality" and not just dictionary meaning (dictionary lies 2 much on opinion), give urself something in depth, apply grow and amendments, see what you can extract.

i agree with DK... ur personality is a forever changing aspect of who u are.... situations , experiences, etc they all help to alter the way u perceive things ..thus altering ur personality. Some things though, no matter how hard u try... u cant change it ...

u zimmi bunny i dunno what him feel like :dunno.. many times i have to redefine who i am, many times. its just what people do raise your living standars, adjust personality to live properly withing new conditions, etc. i feel like every event throughout your life affect you as a person and obviously your personality.

Yeah but dat is where u mixing up urself DK. a person and his personality are not affected at the same time. for example personality i think is a rom chip. no matter how often the PERSON changes, his personality will remain the same. someone who reinvents himself (like i used 2 kno dis fellow who wanted 2 look like cloud) constanly, when he reverts, he will still be who he is. a personality makes us who we are.

If u are goin to stop listening 2 dancehall today and only listen to rock music and stop wearing light nice colours and only dress goth, u have changed ur PERSON. but ur personality has not changed, ur still somewhat outgoing and sociable (even if it is minimized) you are still caring and thoughtful (even though u try to hide it). Get what im saying?

so lets take me for example.. hypothetically speaking. If i was 2 be grown up with the impression that sexual feelings is wrong and ppl who indulge should be castrated, at the time when i have developed my personality, even if i endulge in sexual activities, i may produce abnormal after effects. such as, can only go 1 round, early ejaculation, smoke after sex, dispise partner after sex, leave the room after sex, bathe after sex, get violent after sex.

and a point Linkin raised about people who reinvernt themselves many times.. or was it emux? anyway ppl like that i dont think were given a chance 2 develop their personality fully. he who stands for nothing falls for anything and a personality can only be formed by the conscious choices we make in life.

Let's lay down a base here. Personality is simply the way you choose to react to situations. I for one can say without doubt that personality is cable of change.
Your personality is not laid in stone, neither is it judged simply by, what you watch, who you hang out with, what you listen to and so on. If it were so then you could walk around and lock up all who "act" like a criminal or hang out with criminals. You could easily place people into groups. But this is not so as the world is far more complex.
However the things I mention before do have bearing on what your personality will be like, but in all this it is still left to a choice by the person. Free will, yes this is what I am getting at. Someone mentioned that you could change your personality by seeing a shrink. But what do these people really do? They ask you a question then ask you how you feel about something. Basically all they do is ask you questions and give opinions based on reaction. But in the end it is you who have treated yourself, who have answered your own questions. The human mind is a powerful thing, it is just that we fail to see how we can use it to affect things around us. When something drops on your toe you don't have to shout "B%&%&%&CLAT!" Or "JESUS CHRIST!". You can simply not react at all, but this take effort on the part of our mental ability. I know this because I have "experimented" with this and other situations.
I suppose I can say I am able to change my personality a bit. So simply put it is all a matter of choice, the problem is we fail to control these choices and just run them automatically.

grr personality is difficult ti discuss yow, its intangible, its not allt hat visible, i think it starts with your not sure what your looking for. it should be traits in the person which i'm sure can be changed. shit i looking on it like personality can be trained or tailored u zimmi. if the social aspect that affect personality "personality will be based of your social environ that you grew up in" many people i know today wouldn't be how they are. i mean peolple that lived in voilence from them born and they are like passofists, people that shouldn't even know how to read and they're brilliant. so personality has to be ever changing. you mold your self u zimmi. the weak wont be able to say something like that tho cuase, it honestly takes strenght.

i have to agree with lex here, personality is cast in stone, it defines who you are and how you act, the most anyone i can do is change the way the react to situations that use to affect them, growing up and maturing does not change who you are inside, it simply teaches you whats right and whats wrong. for example if you have a partner and that person hates when you repeat the things she just said, you cant change that aspect of you you can only refrain from doing it, if it were someone else you would still do it because u know that person doesnt have a problem with it, another example, suppose u hate when people lie and cheat on their spouses but you know u cant go around saying stuff like that cause then you would make uncomfortable situations with people who do that so in turn you dont say anything, but it still angers u inside and no matter how u try and supress it, it will still have some negative effect on you, i use to speak my mind alot as a child but as grew up i realized that this wasnt very wise, so i adjusted, its not that i didnt want to do it anymore, it just didnt seem appropriate, your personality remains intact but you just learn to respond accordingly, its all apart of maturing.

hmm i just realize the difference between my way of life and yours and lexlimitless, @godfather. I live for me right, i'm not saying this as a mean person however, i dont change for people,restrain my self from doing things for people when i stop doing something i do it becuase i dont like it. and when i stop i stop. I telling you. mental strenght kid, you can do almost ne thing you wanna do with your self.

personality change really is intangible. I'm glad you guys had fun in this debate, so did I, @ least now I have an idea of what to expect, yet, no conclusion has been made, perhaps the conclusion is that...your personality doesn't change, rather its your person, right Lex? :eusa_thin

I believe it grows on you if you try, you'll just change your apperence

i cannot agree with that people repent and chance there ways and personality how u explain that mr.you'll just change your apperence

Personality is not impossible to change. Just damn hard. And you learn more as you grow. I'll use me as an example. When in primary/high school I would cuss a lot. Every badword you can think of, and I had it. Welcome to learn new ones as well. Knew it was bad, knew I needed to curb it. Some plenty years later, I only cuss when upset. Not very upset, but just mildly. When I very upset I get quiet. Now? I only cuss when in the presence of friends and we playing game or watching anime or such and there is need for a WTF. Playing quake or such, you hear an occasional shout of "b@ttym@n!!! camping in the corner!!!" or maybe "yuh ∫uck@ yuh, dead yuh fi dead!!!" You know, regular gaming excitement and such. Outside of that, maybe I'll say like "shit" under my breath or such, but I don't cuss outside of that. So yea, character wise, from a person who would tell you about your mother to a person who walks away. Yep I think about it in my mind, but I don't verbalise anymore. Change? Some people say yes, some say no. Make your own decision on it.

Players can change to lovers. Change is possible. Hard, and close to impossible, but still doable.

PeAcE.